There's a biblical quote, "know the truth and the truth shall set you free." But in time of great stress or loss, it can feel nearly impossible to see the truth. Fear, worry and doubt are often our companions when life gets really difficult and this can blind us from the truth. This lack of clarity due to our fears, worries, and doubts can make it nearly impossible to see a solution to our suffering. You may feel alone with whatever you are struggling with but the truth is you are not alone. Here are a few tips to help you see the truth during the tough times:
1) It helps to get a bit introspective... To see the truth, you have to be willing to look inward and be honest with yourself. You may have parts of yourself that you feel ashamed or guilty about and it helps to learn to identify these areas. Getting really clear and honest with yourself will help you get to the truth. It can be extremely uncomfortable to identify your deepest fears and shortcomings (some people are so unwilling to do this that they remain unable to move forward or make positive changes).
When you become aware of your negative beliefs and fears, you can drown them with the truth. For example, If deep down you feel like you are not good enough (most people feel this on some level) you need to embrace the truth that you are enough just as you are in this moment.
2)...But don't isolate yourself. When dealing with an extremely painful experience, you may feel raw and vulnerable. You may instinctively want to withdraw from others but that is the exact opposite of what you need. Introspection and quiet time are important to figure out what you're feeling and what you want, but you also need to be able to accept help from others. Talking about your feelings with people who are supportive, knowledgeable, and will help you move forward is essential. A strong support system will help you see the truth that you are not alone and that there are solutions to your problems. Be particular about the people with whom you choose to surround yourself. Those who want you to stay stuck because it threatens them when you change are not the support system you need.
3) Make changes with your newfound awareness. If you are in the habit of being critical of yourself or others, vow to stop this behavior immediately. Criticism is not based on the truth but is actually rooted in fear. Choose to speak only the truth to yourself and others. The loneliness and sadness of deep pain can only be healed when you learn to love yourself well and surround yourself with others capable of loving you well. Love will help you move past the fear and see the truth of what is truly possible.
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